Dating why you are not ready can be a bad idea. If you still want to be single, you are not alone.
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5 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Be In A Relationship Now.
The pressure to date is all around you, from social media posts to family and friends asking if you have a boyfriend or girlfriend.
While the majority of people mean well, it can be frustrated, especially if you don’t feel ready for a relationship.
The truth is that, despite societal pressures, you may not be ready to fall in love or even go out on a date. However, you might end up with the wrong person if you decide to yield in when you are not ready.
Everyone has one reason or the other while they are dating or want that relationship. Some might be due for it, while some on the other hand just feel like doing it to belong. They dont just want to be single, even though they are not ready yet. And this is where some get it wrong.
No man would want to build a house without planning, and counting the cost. However, If you want to date because you don’t want to be single and not that you are ready, it will not go down well in the end.
I think relationship requires good timing. If the timing is wrong, chances are that it will falter.
At some point in life, that feeling, emotion and youthful exuberant will pop up. Of course everyone want to feel loved. We want affection, we want to be in a relationship.
But the question most folks often neglect or fail to ask themselves is “am I ready” for this. Am I actually ready for a relationship? Or am i doing it because Mr A is doing it?
In this article, we have put out some reasons why you shouldn’t be in a relationship now.
Here are some of the reasons why you shouldn’t be in a relationship:
1. You Are Not Matured.
Yes, you heard it right. Relationship is not just about catching feelings professing love, hanging out and lots more. Relationship goes beyond fantasy. It’s all about maturity.
If you are not matured you can’t handle relationship. It’s like buying a car to a child and expect the child to drive, he would crash the car because he’s not ready yet to learn.
Relationship can’t stand if you are not matured enough to take responsibility. Don’t get it twisted maturity is actually not about age but if you are too young to know the purpose of why you are in a relationship then it will fail.
If you can’t offer valuable advice to your partner then their is no point being in a relationship. It’s not all about fun, kissing, cuddling, sex and all the sweeteness that ensues. You have got be matured to be in a relationship.
2. Focus On Self Development First.
Low self esteem is one of the worst thing that can happen to anyone. When you feel bad about yourself, that voice tells you you ain’t good enough.
Or maybe you are not confident, you have insecurity issues. This may be a sign that you aint ready yet for a relationship. This will affect you and your partner if you dare entering a relationship. Because, you may not be able to manage different situation if the need arises in the relationship.
Low self esteem can distabilize you and your partner, it can affect your relationship in bad way. According to Everyday Health
3. You Are Broke.
Love, even the truest and purest is quiet difficulty to prove when you are broke. This is why you should consider not pursuing a relationship when you have no source of income.
These days many have termed relationship as transactional. People may like you because you are financially ok. Meaning if you are broke or poor you can’t be in a relationship.
This may not give so many people with pure intention to be in a relationship, knowing fully well that they won’t be able to chest some responsibility that involves finance. All your good intentions, emotions, care will amount to nothing if you don’t have money.
Relationships are not meant to solely be dependent of what money can buy, but these days it is what it is.
You need money in a relationship just as much as you need emotional maturity and intelligence, and you probably shouldn’t be dating until you can afford these.
Take it or leave it one of the spices of relationship is money. No money no honey.
4. You Are Not Emotionally Secured.
Relationship is not a child’s play. It’s a thing someone going into it needs to be prepared for the good, the bad and the ugly. You must be emotionally strong.
If you are not emotionally secured in yourself then you should not be in a relationship. It will be a catastrophe to put yourself out there when you’re not emotionally ready.
Every relationship requires timing, however you have to work on your emotions and when the time is right you will know.
5. Not Ready To Commit To One Person.
Many people jump into a relationship because they don’t like being alone not because they are ready to be committed with one person.
Sadly, people go into relationship but they keep jumping ship inside the relationship. They are not committed to their partner in the relationship.